Develop Your Vocabulary for Calm: a Workshop

The Inuits have over 50 words for snow, which shows an intimate knowledge of something that is so basic to their lives. We, on the other hand, have maybe a dozen words for calm while there are dozens of slogans about keeping calm. The way to develop our vocabulary for calm is to first gain intimate knowledge of it.

Next month, I will be leading a workshop that will be dedicated to exploring different states of calm through gentle movement, breathing practices, deep relaxation, and meditation techniques. 

When: Saturday, April 2nd 2pm-4pm

Where: Blossoming Soul Yoga in Seneca, which is a lovely practice space 

Cost: $20

A Letter That I Read to Clemson City Council on December 14, 2015

To City Council concerning proposed developments and ordinance changes

Anxiety, depression, addictions, and sleep disorders are our epidemic. One in four people suffer from one of these conditions. One reason for this is that we don’t feel like we belong. And we go against the signals from our gut, which have more neural pathways to the brain than brain to gut.

City planners and developers have hooked into mixed-use development as a way to create sustainable community. So here we are with exactly that happening. And yet, people in our community feel excluded from the general vision of the development being proposed and taking place. I wonder, too, if there are decision makers who are going against their gut when these ordinance changes and proposals are passed.

In the past year, I have been to Atlanta, Charleston, Columbia, and of course, Greenville. I am seeing the same mixed-use development in all of these places, and the same basic design. When I first saw it in Atlantic Station a few years ago, I thought it looked great. I was impressed. When I see it here, I see that it doesn’t belong here. Clemson is an urban place, but it is not metro. It is international, but not global. We are not Atlanta, Charleston, Columbia, or Greenville, yet we feed those communities, while we are fed by the world. Just look at the student and faculty population. They come from all over the world.

Still, students don’t respect the neighborhoods where they live and go to cities nearby for shopping and entertainment when it is not football season. Clemson has a faculty turnover because they recruit the best from the world, and once many arrive, only stay a few years because there is nothing here for them.

So, what design best suits Clemson? When considering the demographic of Clemson, what is best when it comes to city planning?

We have old trails that can be restored, and we could grow from that. We are surrounded by forest and a lake, which is one reason why people do stay in Clemson. It’s why I stay. I’m not into football.

So, here are some questions that maybe we should ask when considering the development of Clemson.

• What does our community value, and how can that guide the development of Clemson?
• How can we be good stewards and foster growth from what it valuable about Clemson?
• When we think about return on investment, can it include factors that impact the overall quality of life?
• What should those factors be?

We live in a material world, and we are all called to live from the heart, from spirit. Part of living from the heart is loving the material itself, all of creation, including what we create. When making decisions about community design, can loving the material of the plans, the supplies, and all other things involved in making a building and community be included?

Best regards,

Renee Gahan

When I Stumbled Upon Mindfulness: A Story

In 1993, I moved to New York City from South Carolina. After graduating from college the spring before, I was considering a move to Asheville, but then a friend of mine decided to live in New York after a summer internship there. She returned for a visit wearing a baby doll dress and 70s thrift store boots telling us about thai food, sushi, and how beautiful Haitians are. With her new edge and obscure used books in hand, I watched her float out of my apartment to go back to the city, and I realized then that I needed to live in New York.

So, I got two jobs, saved up $2000, rented a Chevy Caprice, loaded it up with as much stuff as I possibly could along with two other people. They dropped me off at my friend's apartment in February, and I had never been there in my life. I'm from South Carolina, and at that point I had been to Atlanta a couple of times, to Florida, and to just outside Long Beach, CA for about two weeks. I had in my mind living a 60s renaissance of jazz clubs, bohemian life, berets, and poetry. I was going to be a poet in New York. That would be my job.


Needless to say, that lasted about a year and a half. During that time, I did go to jazz clubs and to the Nuyorican Poets Cafe where I read my poetry during open mic. I fell in deep, unrequited love with an architect, and worked temp jobs all over the city. I met Merce Cunningham without knowing who he was, but I did know I was being introduced to someone very important. I was in culture shock. I was overwhelmed by everything in the city all the time. I fell in love with the city and still love it now. I went to MoMA on the free nights and looked at a lot of the world's greatest artworks. I was broke and got my heart broken. I was in a stampede, got rejected resumes one too many times, fell on my butt every day in the two winters that I was there; I got lost and knew it was time to leave. I tried hanging in there anyway, but it got even worse. I had to leave.

In December of 1994, I was back at my mother's place in Tamassee, SC out in the woods. I had FAILED, and I had fallen one too many times. Right before I left the city, one day I could not get up from the couch where I was sitting. For a few panicked minutes, I could not move my legs. Once I did get up, the pain was excruciating, and I could barely walk. It took everything I had to walk into my room, which was not very far away. In my room in my mother's house everything I had envisioned for myself was gone along with being able to walk out my apartment and walk the streets of one of the greatest cities on earth. I had to start over, and I had to heal my hips. In my mind, it was like I was flailing on an open, stormy sea with no raft, and I had to do something.


While I was in the city, someone at one of my jobs invited me to the Shambhala Center, but I didn't go because I thought it might be a cult. Still, I was exposed to eastern thought. I picked up books by Alan Watts from the guys who sold used books on blankets on the sidewalks. I came home with a Taoist primer on meditation, yoga, and healthy living and began practicing yoga from that and meditation soon after.


I left South Carolina for New York with the intention of never going back, especially to the boonies of the upstate. But there I was where even if I told someone that I met Merce Cunningham, they wouldn't know who he was or would really care. There I was where people looked askance at the idea of a poetry reading or would cheekily suggest that I become a teacher. There I was returned to my mother sick, depleted, and broken, and it was obvious to anyone who looked at me. I refused to let anyone give me suggestions on what to do about my state. I was determined to find my own way because what I saw in many adult lives thus far was very little fulfillment let alone happiness. I knew how vulnerable I was, and that I could possibly be even more vulnerable to someone or to people who shared some sliver of a spiritual view with me. I knew that at this time I could only trust myself for guidance through this, and I knew that there was a way through.

Side note: Just in case you forgot or didn't know, in late 1994 the internet might have been mentioned amongst people in the know, but it was something out there. All computers at home were desktops with the latest ones that took the hard floppy disks. A modem was an actual phone connected to the computer, and like the internet, it was something only smart, rich people had.


I knew I needed to do something to settle the storms in my mind and taking in information from people was not the way to do it. So, I decided for two weeks to go without reading, music, or television, and I even limited my interactions with my mother and any visitors who came to her house. The people around me at the time were standing back anyway, so that was not too difficult. Plus, where I was, there were not very many people. In this two weeks, I meditated for the first time, and it was a candle meditation.

What happened? I found a flash of relief, a moment of clarity, and I knew it was something that was there the whole time. I just needed to learn how to recognize it. Just recently I discovered words for what I found. I found the moment between thought and action, whether that be word or action. I found that there is a place where there is always freedom to choose, and even when I get caught up in the whirl of my mind or in the course of events that result from acting or speaking, I can get back to this space between mind and doing. This place is mindfulness. I stumbled upon mindfulness, and that was what brought me home to myself and still does to this day.

Fulfillment and Indulgence

Question of the day

What is the difference between fulfillment and indulgence?

Maybe fulfillment is about knowing your strengths, your gifts, and standing by them and taking actions based on offering your gifts to the world. Indulgence, then, might be about taking on too much or reaching past your field of strength and diminishing it as a result. Fulfillment leaves room for more; indulgence floods.

Want to speak to this? Please do!

A Sanctuary Atlas

I have been thinking about how to introduce this blog, Jade Owl Atlas. It's a collection of thoughts as I understand the maps of the body, the maps of life, the maps of relationships, and the maps created through inspiration, vision, and intention. It's a collection of maps as I search for sanctuary in all of its forms. A sanctuary is something preserved, treasured, a place of completeness and wholeness. Sanctuary is often considered something out of the way and only when we are pure, but I suggest that sanctuary is something we need everyday, several times a day. And so, this blog is about sanctuary, how to create it, to see it, to be in it.

Three years ago, we moved into our neighbor's house. We knew her for well over 12 years. She was a gardener, a healer, an artist, and in many ways a spiritual mother to us. She left behind her influence, and she left behind a fair amount of stuff. The process happened quickly for her and for us. She didn't have time to get everything, nor did she have room in her new home. As we moved in, we found trash cans, scissors, brooms, and other very mundane everyday things. We also found stilts, some drawings and paintings, and vinyl tablecloths. At first, I scratched my head. Why did she leave this stuff? Why are there pairs of scissors, dustpans, and brooms scattered through the house?

Then as we moved in and settled, when I needed a broom, one was close by. I didn't have to stop what I was doing to hunt for a broom as I did many times in our old house. I didn't have to remember where I put the scissors. I just looked in one of the three logical places that scissors would be kept, and there would be a pair at the ready.

So, we can do this with sanctuary. It doesn't have to be high church on Sunday morning. It doesn't have to be the nature preserve that's a 30 minute drive away and a day long commitment.

I have friends who invite me to walk or run with them at 5am on weekdays and at 7am on Sundays. Many times, I just fritter with my answer as to why I will not join them, usually falling back on the fact that I cannot gear myself to get up and do that with people in the early mornings. But here's the truth. Finally, I said this to someone without even thinking about it. I have to have sanctuary everyday, and those times are sanctuary times for me. We all need sanctuary everyday, but many of us don't realize we need it, and that it's missing in our lives. At the same time one in four adults experience mental illness in a given year. This is an epidemic. It's not because we suddenly know more about mental illness. An estimated 22% of all Americans have a sleep disorder. We have an epidemic, and much of it is because of our lifestyle. We don't give ourselves what we need. We don't value some very basic things that bring stability and satisfaction to our lives. We need sanctuary, and we need to see sanctuary in a much broader and much more ordinary way. We are sick for it.

For the past few centuries, we have made huge improvements, a revolution, really, in the quality of life in this country and across the world. But we have reached its zenith and now need to settle down to what sustains us in body, mind, and spirit. We need to restore sanctuary as something that is vital to us. At this point, it is too precious, and only for certain days, in certain places, and for certain people, only done in certain ways. In the meantime, we have a constant stream of babble and opinion charged with emotions that are pent up inside us - just look at a prime time newscast to see the day's horror, rage, and disgust at the world and the things people do and the way people are. And the conversation is frenzied, endless, feeding on itself, and feeding our elections.

...Back to my neighbor who is so spiritual. At times, I felt I could not understand her, and yet she left behind many ordinary things in a place that she made utterly beautiful. She made her home a sanctuary. So, I realize now that we can hold sanctuary in many places, and in many ways; we can even carry one around in the bags we carry for the day and even in the smallest places like our wallets. We can create sanctuary where there is none. Why not have five sanctuaries? When you cannot get to your Sanctuary (with a capital S), then go to the one closest to you. It would be easy to say that the closest one is in your heart, but I am saying the tangible place. The sanctuary of the material world. A place between heaven and earth where we are completely with our wholeness, where we can pause for just a moment or for a few hours, where we can be safe in our complete wholeness, where we can be at complete ease. Maybe there's not room in the day, or not room in the space for a pipe organ or 300 year old trees in a forest, but maybe there's room for a sentence that inspires you, a shell that takes you to your sanctuary, a miniature doll that reminds you of how children hold sanctuary all the time in play.

This blog is about sanctuary that is ever-present and my pursuit to recognize sanctuary in the world and in my life. My hope is that this blog brings a new understanding to whoever reads it  and touches upon their own way to their own sanctuary.